{"id":247,"date":"2010-05-31T19:03:15","date_gmt":"2010-06-01T00:03:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/?p=247"},"modified":"2010-05-31T19:03:15","modified_gmt":"2010-06-01T00:03:15","slug":"understanding-of-self-blame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/2010\/05\/31\/understanding-of-self-blame\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding of Self-Blame"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve been curious about the phenomenon of blaming ourselves for events that are completely out of our control. I was surprised to find an eloquent answer when reading SJ Rozan&#8221;s book &#8220;<em>The Shanghai Moon<\/em>&#8220;.<br \/>\n&#8220;Bill shifted on his perch, about to break in and give me a hard time for giving myself a hard time, but Alice spoke first.\u00a0 &#8216;It&#8217;s so natural,&#8217; she sighed.\u00a0 &#8216;To blame ourselves when something terrible happens.\u00a0 I think it&#8217;s comforting in a way.\u00a0 It makes us feel there&#8217;s something we could have done if we&#8217;d been smarter, or faster, or whatever it is.\u00a0 Sometimes thinking we&#8217;ve failed is less frightening than admitting we were helpless.&#8217; &#8220;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve been curious about the phenomenon of blaming ourselves for events that are completely out of our control. I was surprised to find an eloquent answer when reading SJ Rozan&#8221;s book &#8220;The Shanghai Moon&#8220;. &#8220;Bill shifted on his perch, about to break in and give me a hard time for giving myself a hard time, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[8,17],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/247"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=247"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/247\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=247"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=247"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/nancyadlerjones.psychology.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=247"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}